Can You Spell It?

Daily writing prompt
What is your middle name? Does it carry any special meaning/significance?

To know me is to mirror me. First lesson: go into an Austin Powers caricature*

Car·i·ca·ture

/ˈkerəkəˌCHo͝or/

noun

  • 1.a picture, description, or imitation of a person in which certain striking characteristics are exaggerated in order to create a comic or grotesque effect: “there are elements of caricature in the portrayal of the hero”
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and say, “Oh Behave.” Then regress to Sean Connery and in your best secret agent voice and say “Bond. James Bond.” But now add this new addition,Meriwether is my middle name.” Indeed, this is my middle name, M e r i w e t h e r. You know, like Meriwether Farms outside of Richmond, VA. Or the same spelling as Miss America 1957, Lee Meriwether.

If you are an historian and live in Missouri, you could be familiar with the signposts along several State highways that mark the old Lewis and Clark trail on the way to Oregon. Lewis’ last name was also Meriwether, to which I am related. But good luck in spelling it on the fly. There’s no ‘h’ after the ‘w’ and there’s only one ‘r’. Also, there aren’t any ‘a’s in it either. Mayweather is also a more common, easily spelled newer version, and I can easily see why. This sounds and looks nicer.

Anyway, when the sun breaks out and the rains stops, this is a good time for me to point out my middle name, “Meriwether is my Middle name!” “Oh, Behave!”

Birds of the Crater

Daily writing prompt
What is the last thing you learned?

I keep forgetting the name of the most annoying yet fascinating birds on Oahu. The Myna bird. They are always paired together, always. There is never one all alone. And when they congregate, the really congregate! They make a huge noise in a bunch. We can’t even talk during our outdoor meeting in beach chairs when they decide to meet before breakfast at Kapiolani Park! They squawk up a racket!

Today I went on a hike to the summit of Diamond Head Crater and found out that as an Hawaiian state resident, I didn’t need to pay for the visit, or hold a reservation. Cool.

And remember, the morning rain means a sunny rainbow is coming. A double rainbow!

I Followed my Dao. . .and Started Writing

Daily writing prompt
Describe the most ambitious DIY project you’ve ever taken on.
  • Get a profile thumbnail for ‘About the Author’ on the dust cover jacket and write the blurb.

Work on a cover image and text block:

Carry around a notebook to get the thoughts when they come and then go to outline, chapter heading and body of chapter when you sit down to write on your free time.

no, you better run!

Writing a book while working 60 hours a week was actually fun. I carried a pocket notebook in my shirt and jotted down ideas as my day unfolded on the bus as soon as I finished a trip and got to the terminal. Then I would edit later by writing chapters down on blank sheets on Word. I’d start after work on Friday and get in about five hours until midnight. I’d then get up a 5 a.m. on Saturday morning and work until one or two pm and then stretch my legs and snack on some food. Sunday I’d do a half day. It’s not a good idea to eat while you’re writing–trust me you’ll soon see why! After lunch, I’d switch over to my other laptop as the device I was on since 5 would start to fail due to overheating. It took me a while to realize why my logic board was failing.

Next, you need to market your book. . .

Then upload your manuscript to Kindle Direct Publishing on Amazon!

Winston Tastes Good Like a Cigarette Should

Daily writing prompt
If you could permanently ban a word from general usage, which one would it be? Why?

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I didn’t have to think about this one. The word that actually is not a word is, orientate. There is no such word. The correct word is orient. As in: “I completed the orienteering merit badge and found the last marker because I learned how to correctly orient the map with the compass.” More commonly, “We new employees had one week of classes to orient us to the corporate culture.”

We don’t orientate anyone for anything! If in Human Resources I would cringe at this usage. Guess my college degree in English had at least this one conceit which now is read as snobbishness.

What do I want? Good grammar or good taste? I want good taste. I loved Marlboro’s much more than Winstons. Being a writer and using my English degree, I loved to smoke and drink black coffee over a hot MacBook Pro. In fact, I would stay on the computer for so long, I’d burn out the logic board so I actually had to use two Pros together on my desk!

I don’t have a problem with using ‘like’ in comparison such as saying, “Winston tastes good such as a cigarette should,” but the reason I don’t like orientate is that is signals to me that the person using it didn’t take an English class, get a degree in Creative Writing, or hasn’t written anything of any length.

As I was writing my first book, I became confounded with traveler and traveling versus traveller and travelling–traveler and traveller are both okay to use, but travelling gets red flagged by spell-check. Another word that freaks me are judgment and judgement–both are correct, but judgment doth win out to a higher level of conceit for those who are professional editors. Drop the e Sinbad.

When I was in the third grade I got corrected on color. I believed innately that the Crayola crayons were wax sticks of colour. Sigh. The teacher did come over to my desk to say the colour was correct for English, but she did mark my paper -1 for my spelling of colour.

Return Receipt Requested

Daily writing prompt
What advice would you give to your teenage self?

A Stitch in Time Saves Nine

Dear Douglas,

-or-

Dear Not Enough Time,

Hurry and Worry rhyme–and it’s no accident. Actually, it usually results in one!

Almost every short cut you take may mean you never get the solution or the answer you would need in the future, such that you won’t have a do-over again–later on!

What goes around comes around. The karmic rules of “Do on to others as you wish to be done to You.” rings true to all the financial and relationship difficulties I had to go through when I was in my teens and twenties. I pinned all my hopes on winning the big enchilada, even still, as I hoped to win Powerball’s big pot around Christmastime last year.

You will learn as you get more experience that the key to doing anything is to enjoy the process of doing it so much, that the quality and quantity of such will reap rewards in the future. Ye Shall Reap what ye Sow. Being tuned-in to God and to Higher Power as you do anything, will bring about only good results. This Spiritual Law is as Good as Gold, and is as true as water seeking its own level of Love.

Douglas, go to a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous, or at least learn how to say it correctly! It will save you so much of lost jobs and loves–by keeping your seat there.

I estimate my financial loses to have been $214,000.00 dollars between ages 21 to 39, due to my drinking–not to mention the opportunity costs of around Eight Hundred Thousand Dollars, what I could have earned, had I been sober!

So yeah, my seat in AA cost me about a million dollars! (put pinky up to lips in an Austin Powers correction) — one Billion Dollars!!!

Love,

Your Future Self

Do or Do Not

The Trail of Pairs . . .

Daily writing prompt
Tell us about your favorite pair of shoes, and where they’ve taken you.

. . . of my Sneakers, Converse, Basketball hightop, Vans, Skechers—and Running Shoes!

J’you know ‘oh hoe. Tonight I’m running you! J’you know ‘oh hoe / that in the book of life, when we die / and review our biggest lie / of what we came here to do / and be and set debt / and pay. . . attention to, ‘oh ho / ‘oh no / way!

So one of the coolest awakenings I had was to review all the athletic shoes I had worn from birth–from my entire life–lined up in pairs, in the order in which I had purchased them, and in their final state of wear and tear with a reminiscent tear of the state of an endearment in my eyes as I rose from bed, with my all time favorite–a pair of Nike Air Max of the mid-nineties, which were the first two colors that came out, red and blue. I bought the red pair from Hector’s trunk at the loading dock when I arrived at work.

He had the deal of a lifetime: a pair of Nike Air Max for only one hundred dollars. I guess they hadn’t sold online or at a Niketown, and he knew a guy who knows things and I left it at that.

I’ve never since been able to get a pair like those at Niketown, as they never seem to carry the double A’s. Or is it the D’s? This sucks. The Nike Air’s are just a skosh too narrow. These were perfect. I had just got them broken-in just right–for my feet.

But I met a hustler on the tram although I naively didn’t know he was a thief, and after the shortest oral encounter I ever got, he ran out my door and grabbed my gym bag after I gave him a fifty–and both of my air max running shoes were in the bag.

I tried to run down to the lobby to catch him, but My pants were down, and he had already opened the window to the fire escape and vanished. Damnit.

So when I pass away, I will smile at the pair of white Converse in the eighth grade that had my name blacked out by the boy who looked over my shoulder to see my combination and get caught later by coach who saw my shoes with my name blacked out, or the Pony’s I loved running-in at night for my 4.5 mile loop–and at Brewer Field House.

No, the pair I want back when I die are the original Nike Air Max pair with the red stripes that I got out of Hector’s trunk, that I lost that morning at one am, when I got robbed in bed!

Why Be a Driver?

Daily writing prompt
If there was a biography about you, what would the title be?

How I got my Job” -or- Doug’s Life Story –for Word Press

On my trail to be fired by my previous employer for poor job performance, I was given an ultimatum: Show up at EAP office at 9 a.m. sharp on Monday or be fired. I rang the security bell at 8:58 a.m., and no one answered. I re-rang at 8:59 a.m., and still no answer. I left with my tail between my legs. Two weeks later I received my termination letter for failing to appear. But I showed up, I said. No, you were instructed to show up at 9 a.m.— they must have really wanted me to go!  Talk about being on a schedule!  

So about two weeks later, I got up the courage to file a grievance with our union rep.  She got on it right away, and she had an urgency to her voice.  Sure enough, the time to file a grievance was within two weeks of the fire date. Fortunately, the Thanksgiving Holiday happened to fall within this two week period—and the contract states ten business days: The Holiday didn’t count as a business day!  I successfully saved my old job!   

Sure enough, almost to the day, I got the new job at Muni two years later.  This timing of coincidence was incredible. I heard an inner voice that told me my time with the old employer was done.  What’s all this got to do with sitting back and watch the show?  It means as long as I keep my purpose clear and my direction and motives honest, nothing but good  follows. This spiritual law seems to hold as true as water seeking its own level, and the law of gravity dropping an apple off of a tree. I have become adept at valuing my physical laws, but spiritual laws are just as valid. We are spiritual beings in a physical body.  So when I pause to sit back and watch the show, I can avoid dramatic choke points.

And this concept of watching the show can be applied in the macro world of our life goals. I don’t know how many times I applied to jobs because I was in a financial crunch and dumbed down just to get a job I could get right away to pay rent. To be sure, there is a wisdom in this: Get immediate needs met, then go on to bigger and better later on. I never seemed to get this. Once employed, I became too busy to think bigger.  But as the months turned in to years, I realized I was content to maintain my status quo by rationalizing that life’s simple pleasures as a worker among workers was enough. I never gave a thought to moving upstage in my goals. 

As long as happy hour beckoned after shift, that was enough.  Until my life got hit with a reboot at age 39, I began to get a place where I could actually, sit back. Not lazy, as some would say, but to avoid the drama without being the lead actor on stage. I finally made the split between getting a job for paying rent now, and to put in for a job that would take longer to get and pay more with a long term future. My answer was to be a civil service worker in the Department of Transportation in the City and County of San Francisco.  

I was always too worried about what others were doing and always sought the lowest common denominator rather than bring up the equation to a new, more aware level.  Its been found that when an angry or pessimistic person enters a room with a group of people, such as a break room early in the day, productivity is reduced by all for the rest of the day. The energy I bring to a bus full of people can sometimes make a difference.  Is riding the bus a drag, or is it fun? 

I noticed early on in my bus riding days, some drivers looked relatively relaxed. Nothing seemed to phase them and some were actually fun to talk to. There did seem to be a way in which to make their work look easy and relaxing, and yet at a high paying job.  So the seed was planted early on that this might be a good job for me. As a Gemini sun sign, transportation and continual movement fits my sign. My 4th grade art project, What do I want to do when I grow up?, was a picture of the silver GM coaches that serviced the NY Port Authority from Jersey during the 60’s. Bus driver was a job I wanted to do since the fourth grade. I have heard  those who are successful in their jobs later in life, had a passion for those activities or skills from an early age.

Sure, it would take some doing, but in the mean time, why not put in for it and wait and see what would happen? I got menial easy jobs in the meantime, construction delivery, housecleaning, and non-profit residential pick-up truck driver. This sense of service kept me going as I put in and waited for the better job. Indeed, when my ‘number’ came up with the Municipal Railway, I was ready to move.

I noticed early on in my bus riding days, bus drivers looked relatively relaxed. Nothing seemed to phase them. Some were actually fun to talk to. There did seem to be a way in which to make their work look easy and relaxing as a high paying job.  So, the seed was planted early on that this might be a good job for me. As a Gemini sun sign, transportation and continual movement fits my sign. For my 4th grade art project, “What do I want to do when I grow up?”, I drew a picture of the silver GM coaches that serviced the NY Port Authority from Jersey during the 60’s. Bus driver was a job I have considered since the fourth grade. I have heard that those that are successful in their jobs later in life, had a passion for those activities or skills from an early age.

Unlike Civil Engineer, Medical Doctor, Dentist, or Lawyer,  Bus Driver did not seem to appear on the success roster. I didn’t really care. Ralph Kramden was my hero. I saw no matter how half baked an idea was that I could hatch, as long as I had my friends, and made a connection with others, everything would turn out okay, just like a 30 minute sitcom!  When Jackie Gleason would exclaim, “How Sweet it Is!”  I got it.  I guess you could say the in a way, The Honeymooners was my imprint version of The Wonder Years,  that many followed in their youth in the eighties.

I applied as truck driver with a non-profit retailer for the upcoming Thanksgiving— Christmas rush. I was so grateful for the timing in getting that truck driver job, when I needed it most, that I refused my first training class with Muni, and finished out the holiday season. I got one first refusal when starting with the city, and I took it, knowing that I was close to starting a training class.

Fast forward to San Francisco and the late nineties. Newly elected Mayor Willie L. Brown Jr., Esq., was mandated to fix Muni in his first 100 days, and he took immediate action to hire more bus drivers. I went to the Moscone job fair and put in to get on the list.  Finally, at age 39, I was finally making a plan about choosing a job that seemed more like a career or occupation than just a need to get another paycheck fast. 

I encourage anyone living paycheck to paycheck, or between jobs, to pause a look deep about what kind of service they want to provide to others. I would always sit in the front seat when I rode the bus with Grandma, and liked it when the bus drivers would talk to me. I still do that now, conditions permitting, and I feel like I am actually in a recruitment mode. Early first impressions can and do have a lasting effect on our life decisions later on down the road.  Get them when they are young, and so I present myself as doing a fun job. 

The events around this hire date are so incredibly unusual, that I think they bear testimony that when our motives are pure and not self-seeking, God has a way of showing up and helping. 

Watching the show can also take on a religious tone.  I have heard that the path to a God given life is broad and wide and very much unlike a tightrope. Yet my life to this point seemed just that.  I put in for the truck driving job on Friday  I prayed. I kept the faith. I took in a deep breath and said that this is it:  Am I just doing another wishful thinking?  Or am I on sure footing? Indeed I was: Next Monday, I got the job. I had asked with a non-self serving attitude, and got a good response.  This last minute break through was only another series of coincidences that seemed as though there were forces at work that were beyond my control, helping me.  

When Muni notified me that I have been selected as an applicant, only a two week window exists in which I must answer, else wise I have to start over and reapply.  At this time, in 1996, job apps were not online as they are today, so I put in a card that was self-addressed, and when the window for application was open for those two weeks, I had to send back a mail in response that you I was available for hire. 

Luckily, I still had kept a post office box near my old house, so that my address would be stable and not change.  One big problem many applicants have when applying for city jobs is that the address that they use when they first apply changes in the time frame when the hire notice arrives. As I went about my business, I forgot about what address I used when I applied. This has been the cause of many an idea I am not good enough, or I have to know someone to get in. This just is not true. If I put in for a city job, I will get a response back.  

Just as a thank you letter can be as good as gold after a job interview, a follow up letter to a new employer is always a good idea and really has no downside.  What negative could develop if I checked back to see how my name on the list was progressing?   So, when I went to make a journey to my mailbox in another neighborhood from where I was staying, I saw the last letter in the pile.  It was from the city, and as I tore it open I dropped my jaw.  The deadline for applying had passed. It was last Friday!  

I rushed on the bus to the address on the letterhead. Oh, well, I thought, if I have to reapply and start over then so be it.  As I was riding on the 43 bus to the Presidio Division, I forlornly looked at the cancellation stamp on the outside of the original envelope.  When in the heck did they mail the letter?  Oh, not too long, only about two weeks ago—I couldn’t believe my eyes. 

There were two different dates on the cancellation stamp: November 16 and November 17. I did the math. November 17 meant I had one more business day to report my positive response to agree to be hired.   I couldn’t believe this last minute hope.  When I got to the hiring office, I was all smiles.  “Sir, I realize the deadline for the next class expired last Friday, but take a look at this.”  I showed him the double cancellation stamp.  I was in!  He accepted the cancellation date of the 17th and allowed me to start.  I knew there was a power greater than myself at work here. 

It has been said that a spiritually fit person has no regrets about the past.  And so, by trying over and over to not be resentful about why I was let go or quit in the past, I looked to where I had success, and what I enjoyed about what I did. Even if the job description seemed lowly or without promotion, what had I done in those jobs that was helpful to my employer, and how could I carry this forward?  My job evaluations were mediocre and average. When I took an honest look at my part, and how I had become my own worst enemy, I saw that when I could reflect upon the stage of my life, and see the show, I would excel.

I have been doing this ever since, and now have an abundance level I never thought possible.  I was always too worried about what others were doing and always sought the lowest common denominator rather than bring up the equation to a new, more aware level. It’s been found that when an angry or pessimistic person enters a room with a group of people, productivity is reduced for the rest of the day. The energy I bring to a bus full of people can sometimes make a difference.

I’ve heard time and time again that my worst moments can be actually the turning point for the best. It’s easy to type this now, and to talk from a platitude point of view over coffee, but this spiritual law seems to hold as true as water seeking its own level, and the law of gravity dropping an apple off of a tree.  I have become adept at valuing my physical laws, but spiritual laws are just as valid.  We are spiritual beings in a physical body.  So when I pause to sit back and watch the show, I can avoid dramatic choke points, keep my bearing, all will turn out well.

Home Sweet Home

Daily writing prompt
Write about your dream home.
Grand Old Painted Lady by Buena Vista Park Stairway to Heaven
  1. The first thing about my dream home is plenty of wall space upon the foyer or entryway to hang art.

My art.                                    

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Brent’s art.

Brian’s art.

Art from people I haven’t met yet.

And it even comes with a coffee shop downstairs!

2. Having a corner coffeeshop. Check

3. Period details or high levels of craftsmanship. Check.

A Fireplace that looks good–and works!

4. Shared Kitchen big enough for more than one cook in the room!

Look at the beauties across the street!

(Also, hallway kitchen’s are out. It is such a pain in the morning to get coffee from the pot while someone wants to microwave or go to the fridge.)

5. Dream House has to have a cupola!

Truth be told, they aren’t as practical as one would guess–the noise levels are bad if you’re on a busy corner–and you have a challenge to try to do night stands with lamps if you follow your first instinct to put a bed in the middle: But my dream house should have so much room it doesn’t matter that there’s a cupola–’cause one of the requirements is to be on a corner and look down on it to see what’s going on. I loved looking down on my corner across from the Boom Boom room at Fillmore and Geary for 23 years. I gave up rent control during Covid and moved to Honolulu. But I still have a dream for a house in San Francisco. This actually go against my pragmatic, executive function mind which follows the fool’s suit of the comment, “I will never buy a house in Hawaii or in San Francisco–because it’s too expensive.

Perhaps a lounge chair or reading area is best suited for the cupola.

6. Got to have a view!

One thing about the newer buildings in San Francisco is that they have roof decks. Here is one of my favorite views at Konrad at the Park on Gough near Eddy. The view would have to have a double set of windows or a cupola on a corner–but since this is my dream–I’ll also add that there has to be a view.

And the view of the Sutro Tower is essential–especially in July and August to watch to fog roll in on cat’s paws.

A Life Behind the Wheel

Why Be a Driver?

Many ask this question, and we drivers know who you are: Someone who has never driven for a living before. There are many negatives to being a driver, but not usually what you may think if all you’ve ever known is an office or in retail. In most respects, an office job is a superior job, unless you are like most drivers, independent, and not a fan of office politics. Indeed, the life of a driver does involve politics to some degree, but only in a larger sense like city government’s rules and regulations such as parking tickets or moving violations. 

If you work for the government, as a civil service employee, the politics of parking and fee violation threats are somewhat reduced, as you are driving city equipment on city streets, and the police are your supportive coworkers. Backlash can occur at any intersection or crosswalk, however, and the ‘me first’ attitude of car culture, borne of the baby boom generation, is the saddest detriment to quality of life in this thriving city. Heat from claims from the city attorney’s office, and public complaints about rude drivers are the pushback we do well to understand if we are to keep our job and stay off the radar.

No, the life of a driver is one more like that of a writer: interest in the people who cross your path. Tour bus driver guide, shuttle driver, taxi driver, and in delivery services, we get in get out, and have command of our own ship, so to speak. Get in get out, like our hero Robert Di Nero in the movie Brazil.

We learn the art of understanding and dealing with dispatchers or how to get a signature if squaring a delivery. We know what paths not to take during certain times, and secrets about how to cut delays. We have a many times thankless job, but we still have our own independence and ability to keep to ourselves when all is quiet.

There is no age limit on being a driver. Very few companies discriminate against us because they need us more than we need them. There are so many avenues of approach for a driving job, as, ultimately, our warm body behind the seat is very valuable. I see this every time I learn a new short cut from an experienced taxi driver who can get me to a destination five minutes faster and three dollars cheaper by the road less traveled. That’s what makes San Francisco so intriguing. There are so many ways to get from point A to B. 

When we begin to seek a job outside of being a transit operator, the change back to the ‘real world’ can be confusing and confounding. The change in our blood chemistry required to move to a desk can be not unlike a medical testing procedure with electrodes and needle sticks! The adjustment is considerable. In riding home on a trolleybus, I heard another tale about an attempt to leave transit operator for another description.

I could not understand why many experienced bus drivers were getting the cold shoulder or disinterest in seeking other jobs with the city. My friend driving the bus on my ride home came up with a plausible reason for non-interest in consideration for another city job: It’s because human resources knows we are of most value to the city by keeping our driving job. A different job title or job class number may seem easier or like a promotion, but the fact of the matter is, our experience is our gold. 

Not being fazed by the crazies, or knowing how or when to write a report becomes a key that can’t be entered into an hourly rate. We drivers are a class unto ourselves. Only those who have driven a bus before us understand the how and why of our thinking, and compassion for our split second decision-making that can appear incorrect from the black and white on a desk. The fear of what if can be a weapon used by those who do not drive, but we only find peace when we realize we cannot change their priorities. We cannot control what time they choose to enforce the rulebook. Only our intuition can be our guide.

As long as our vision is clear and our hearing is good, we are good to go. With blood sugar and blood pressure in a normal range, we can continue in service as long as we shall live, so help us God. We can stay behind the wheel for as long as we shall live. And, of course, stay within the health guidelines setup to make sure we don’t lose attention by low blood sugar, lack of rest, or have cholesterol levels in an unhealthy range. Stress on our bodies over the years, then, is our final enemy. 

And when I (finally) see I am this enemy of my worst self, lest I think I have a new trick to try and keep and love as my own, the trolleybus of happy (or crappy) destiny awaits us at any corner and on any track!

Law of the Sea

Bloganuary writing prompt
What is your favorite animal?

I’d have to say that the sea turtle is my favorite animal. I loved the sea turtle in Finding Nemo–a lot like the surfer culture here in Waikiki. Every time I put on my shoes, I think of a sea tortoise!